Thursday, February 27, 2014

What do we leave behind?

I sometimes wonder, what is it that we leave behind when we are no longer here? For some its their kids, for others its their work and for some none. 

I now wonder, what is it that I leave behind? I had made pact with myself some long time ago that I shall try and leave this world a better place, be nice to people and be remembered as the smiley cheerful one everywhere I go. And I realized with some people, I just have to try that little bit harder.

Wednesday, February 26, 2014

Sometimes...

Sometimes, there are just some things that are never meant to be understood, changed or forced upon.

Sometimes, you just need to find a way to accept and move on.

Sometimes, all we need is just that little bit more of faith, hope and love.

And sometimes, we just need to believe, take a deep breathe and let go.

Saturday, February 22, 2014

Memories and Expectations

You sometimes know that some stuff or people are a thing of past when all you could remember about that said thing was just the good happy memory. It's like we forgot how much that pain or hurt we felt. I'm always amazed at how much my brain can block off all that. Maybe it is a just our defence mechanism to continuously be happy. 

Then, there's another side of it. Expectations. How we expect ourselves to behave and others to fall into place. A good case study would be me and B. We were good friends and we had different expectations. When all hell broke loose, we just couldn't piece things together during the rough patch. After that, it just went down the drain. But we recently met up and that's when I realised that we had some good times and we could be friends again. Just not in a relationship and definitely we have different expectations. 

And that's when you tell yourself that this is the time to let go. Its time to give yourself that reality check of what went wrong, what went right, lessons learnt and expectations to be set. At the end of it, I'm happy I still have my friend back and come what may, life will go on and there will be someone out there for me. There is a saying if you can remain as friends after the breakup, it could either mean you are both still in love or you never were. I used to wonder about that but now, it doesn't matter anymore. It doesn't carry anymore weight for me. 

Although I must say that what I missed having with B is the fact that I never had a guy that adored me that much. That he would miss me a lot and say it. Then, I could irritate him so much that he would want to bite me. I never had that before. I now know that I deserve all that attention and adoration a guy could give me. Yes, till now, I don't know what went wrong and I'm putting it down as life's mystery. 

Harassment and being scared

Met with a car accident on Tuesday. It was my fault, a bimbo moment where I thought there was no car when I opened my car door and a car came banging my door from my blind spot. Didn't realized what happened and I'm lucky that I haven't stepped out from my car. The guy was screaming and shouting and when I finally talked sense into him, I decided to go the legal route as he wasn't even going to be reasonable. So both made police report. 

He kept calling every day, first asking for money, second asking how to make the claims. Told him that I won't be answering his call and to let it all be handled by the insurance company. I was scared because he keeps calling nonstop. And yesterday was Friday and I went to watch a show. What was scary was when I checked my phone, I had 8 missed calls from him each 3 minutes apart. That was when I had the chills. I was scared and I am scared now. I don't know what I'm actually scared of if you asked me. He has no clue where I stay and work but I can't help feeling that he is stalking me down. Or rather I can't help looking behind me. I've already said that I've taken all the legal route. I'm worried for his kid but he doesn't seem concern about his kid at all through out the whole entire time and I had to remind him all the time. 

I haven't done anything wrong and I had taken all the legal possible route. How is it possible that I'm scared of him?

Tuesday, February 11, 2014

Chasing Pavements

Something about this song has kept me hooked. I kept having in on repeat on my Spotify, especially the first line, I've made up my mind. I know the song was inspired by the singer's experience with a cheating boyfriend. But somehow I don't interpret the song as that. Instead, I kept thinking how lucky I am to have my support structure around me, through all my happy moments and all the moment when I just need them there for a hug, for a smile and even just drinking next to me while I kept quiet. I'm a blessed girl!

Saturday, February 8, 2014

Racial Harmony that I've taken for granted

I was born and bred in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. I don't recall a time where the color of my skin was a problem. We all speak the same language, English or Bahasa Melayu, fluently. We all have our mother tongues that we speak at home or dialects we speak with our friends. I don't recall a time where religion was a pain and we all respect each other's race and religion. It pains me to see where my country is going now. 

I may have my head buried in the ground in the last few years where suddenly religion is a big thing and we no longer respect and tolerate other religion and beliefs. What made it worse was the fact that we are now instilling fear into those who are easily led. I never thought that I would one day read in the national newspaper that the biggest fear of this country is when a Muslim murtad. Seriously, what happened to the freedom to practise a religion of your choice? What happened to secularism? What happened to love thy neighbour as thy self? 

As my work brings me all around this region and the world, I realized how Malaysians had deluded themselves. I may not be the most open and liberal Malaysian but I've seen how other races and religions behave and it is definitely not like how it was preached in the last few years in this country. I remember in my tweens period where I was trying to understand religions of the world, I attended church, temples and mosques. I had loved all the religion, their teachings, their beliefs and their faith. I had absolutely hated those that believe that they are the chosen one to deliver God's words. Some instil fear, some instil hatred, even worse, some instil the need to call for war against the disbelief. 

I remember leaving those places of worship in disgust and never wanting to go back there again. Why do people feel the need to tell others that their religion is superior than others? Why can't we all co-exist in a world that tolerates religion but also respect other's for their choices and their beliefs? Why can't we just live and let live? 

I specifically remember this incident in a church where the senior pastor called to condemn a gay bishop and how the church doesn't acknowledge gays, lesbians, bisexuals and transgender. He said that it was against the act of nature and we condemn all that engage in those activities. I could remember my blood boiling at that point for if I remember my Bible words correctly, we are not supposed to judge others. Others will face their Judgement Day on their own and answerable for how they lead their life. Until then, we are all equal sinners. In fact, Jesus Christ mixed around with prostitutes and gays as it was a way of life then. But how is it that one man felt the need to condemn and judge others in the House of God was beyond me. 

Now, religion is thrust into the limelight by those who are supposed to govern a country. Instead of governing a country, they decided to be petty and govern what goes on in their countrymen's house! What right does a government, elected by people (mind you!), have to govern what I should belief and what I can or can't do? Where is our freedom? Where are the bygone, carefree days of my childhood? Where I can play with my friends, not realizing that they are malay, chinese or indian? And not bothered if we are Muslims, Christians, Hindus and Buddhist? Where is our tolerance? When has life gotten to be so serious and ridiculous at the same time?

Monday, February 3, 2014

Happy Horsey Year Ahead

It's Chinese New Year and fireworks have been going on and on for the last 4 days. I've come to acknowledge something for the new year. Its going to be a brand new PJ in 2014. I'm going to be single and I'm going to enjoy every single freaking moment of it. I'm not going be sad and mope about the lack of guys or my lack of relationship. I'm not going to be upset or feel jealous when I see other couples. I don't know their behind the scenes drama, it could be good or bad but good for them. I'm not going to long for a love story or be swept off my feet. 

I'm going to learn how to enjoy my life again. I'm going to travel again. I'm going to see the world and the world is my oyster. I'm not going to chain myself anymore. I'm going to be my own compass and find my happiness and inner peace. Its not going to be easy but it is definitely something that I'll die trying. 

So with that, I wish everyone a Happy Horsey Year ahead for all, regardless of size, age, religion, color and gender!